今天读完了《DK爱情心理学》

最初选择这个书单，是希望增加自己的心理学理论知识，在工作中对大学生进行心理开导和心理咨询的时候有更厚实的理论支撑。想当然地以为此书只是恋爱心理。读完以后才发现，此书讲的是人一生的爱情，从相遇，相识，动心，恋爱，到婚姻，甚至到婚姻以后，如何在这场恋爱的马拉松里保持健康，积极以及热度。此书对我自己本身的家庭婚姻经营也是颇有帮助。

如果你本人认为自己很不擅长与人相处，与自己喜欢的人在一起总是不知如何是好，那么我建议你不妨读一读此书。

我理解的《DK爱情心理学学》：

Teach you how to keep and find lifelong love，and how to keep the relationship warm and romantic。

Before married，it could teach you how to find the Mr. Right and Ms. Right. After married, it could teach you how to stay excited about each other when everything’s calm down.

读完这本书，你会更深地理解，爱情不是改变自己或是改变他人。那些承诺要为爱而改变的就别信了，哈哈。

A romantic ralationship isn’t something that turns you into a new, better person, it’s something that, as the years go on, supports you as you continue to grow into a psycholgically healthier, happier, and more authentic version of the person you always were. It is something that from which you can tackle everything positively, creatively, and confidently.

As you search for, consider,date,and fall in and out of love with potential partners,stay true to your best self and keep your eyes open for the person who will make it not harder but easier to be that person.

Always remember：Staying curious, passionate, cheerful, and kind can be the best recipe for a happy long-term relationship—and in turn, a happy relationship can help us to stay cheerful and kind.

哈哈，祝愿天下有情人终成眷属！